Seeing 28 years of marriage end with the words (paraphrased) “let me infect you with HIV and I will make you rich.”
Words that cut like a knife, by your own spouse. Ending up dead and butchered in a suitcase, all because of marital conflict.
Abuse, murder, rage and malice seems to be on the rise in our matrimonial homes in Kenya. It’s sad to say that all these acts are done by people who once loved one another. So, what’s happening?
Do we even have morals anymore? Or are we just living, making life changing decisions without any wisdom attached, are we just going with the motions of how our deceitful hearts feel?
It would be a lie to say that one would meet and fall in love all for the purpose of murder and abuse.
All these distortions of the institution of marriage have a beginning. I’d say, it starts with our identity.
Who am I? Why am I here? Many couples are walking around without purpose, and here I mean, eternal purpose, which is who God purposed us to be. We must begin to really ask ourselves, ‘have I left God out of the picture for too long?’ That we completely get lost in the rage and emotion that comes with life’s stress and tension, that our release points become prideful and senseless solutions.
Have we forgotten that we were made in the image of love? God’s love. If this is so, it should reflect in our matrimonial homes.
Here’s the thing. Let’s be more daring than abusive. Dare to turn to God, to make a decision as a husband or a wife, and as a community, to look in instead of out. To be unafraid to take a step into healing other than a step to react to your spouse.
Dive into having faith, other than keeping pain.
“ 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”